Squirting 101: Women Share What Actually Worked
A while back, we ran a survey all about female ejaculation and squirting—focused on real, personal experiences rather than clinical definitions.
One of the most revealing questions we asked was: “If FE (female ejaculation) is something you consciously learned, what were the tools or experiences that helped you the most?”
The responses were incredibly honest, diverse, and full of insight. Some women discovered it by accident, others got there through intentional exploration—with toys, with partners, through self-pleasure, body awareness, or learning from guides and videos. For many, it was a mix of physical technique and mental shift—letting go, tuning in, and staying curious.
Below, we’re sharing a wide range of these responses.
Whether you’re just starting to explore, have been trying for a while, or are simply curious about what’s possible, we hope these voices leave you feeling inspired and empowered.
And if you want guidance on how to get there yourself, don’t miss our Complete Squirting Guide. This is the only resource that walks you through every stage of the squirting experience, from understanding your anatomy and mental blocks, to real, hands-on techniques that produce real results.
“Time and space with myself, learning my body.”
“It’s staying in the present, feeling pleasure, and not chasing an orgasm—flowing not forcing.”
“I’m just lucky I didn’t have to learn but definitely embodiment helps all things sexual for me.”
“My ex-husband is the one who discovered this/studied up on it to help enable me to do it. I can only FE (squirt) by fingering.”
“Definitely did some research, and my best tools were exploring myself and my anatomy alone, education, and supportive partners. I also use crystal wands and g-spot/clitoris stimulating toys to massage my vaginal muscles and relax more. FE positivity and erotica to arouse me more helps too!”
“What really got me there was exploring my G-spot slowly, feeling it get full, and using that pushing tip from your guide. That part made a big difference.”
“Get yourself an Onna Pearl, follow Deborah Sundahl’s seminar on the g-spot and FE, read about it, watch porn where women masturbate and ejaculate, watch your yoni in a hand mirror while masturbating (sometimes fluids come out but you don’t see it).”
“Your Allure Wave ;) best thing ever.”
“Working with sexual energy, consciously.”
“My partner helped me, by telling me it is ok, that he liked it, that I could let go.”
“Onna Curve was how I first achieved it!!! Which is why I wanted to do this survey to mention how much it helped me! I usually use a toy to FE. For me it was also very helpful how encouraging my partner has been and wouldn’t care if also peeing was involved etc.”
“Affirmation that I wasn’t peeing, allowed me to relax enough.”
“My fingers. My Drop. Me knowing my body and being comfortable with it.”
“After the first time I researched it to see what happened, then coached a new partner on how to try for it and it became a semi-regular thing.”
“Investigating and sharing with male and female partners who know about it and enjoyed it.”
“Exploring my body and pushing my pleasure to beyond my orgasm.”
“My curved wand and knowing where my G-spot is and how to stimulate it.”
“I learned by experimenting with my partner. It took months of trying out different things to get to the point where I can almost do it on command.”
“For me it's all about my mind, comfort and safety.”
“Honestly, just spending time exploring inside with my fingers made a huge difference. The right pressure on the G-spot = wow.”
“Glass and crystal yoni wands. Also not being afraid to really explore the inside of myself with my fingers.”
“Learning from you, watching Deborah’s webinar, and just playing around with different toys—the curved ones really work for me.”
“Anything pressing on my G-spot.”
“A partner that listens during sex.”
“The best tool was and is that I changed my mindset to think it is possible and then it just happened. It needed the ultimate letting go of control.”
“I worked on being present during sex—tuning into my body, breath, and pleasure without chasing orgasm.”
Toys Our Customers Have Reported Success With
Throughout our community’s journey of exploring squirting and female ejaculation, many have found that certain toys and pleasure wands have played a key role in their discovery. From G-spot dildos to curved wands, these tools have helped women connect with their bodies, enhance their pleasure, and unlock new sensations. Below are some of the top recommendations shared by our customers who’ve had success along their exploration journey.
Onna Raven Wave - With its beautifully curved design, this dildo perfectly mimics the natural come-hither motion, targeting the G-spot with just the right amount of pressure. It’s expertly crafted to internally massage the clitoral legs while stimulating the G-spot, leading to a powerful release and the exquisite intensity of squirting.
