Sacred Self-Pleasure: How to Elevate Masturbation to a Powerful Ritual

How to Turn Masturbation Into a Powerful Act of Self-Care

Let’s say it louder: self pleasure is not a backup plan. It’s not second-best. And it’s definitely not shameful, selfish, or something to check off before bed.

Solo pleasure is not just healthy for you, it is a radical act of self-connection — a way of saying, “I am worth knowing, worth touching, worth feeling.” When done with intention, it becomes more than physical release. It becomes a ritual: a sacred return to your own body, your own rhythm, your own power.

In honour of Masturbation May, we asked women in our community to share the ways they’ve turned solo pleasure into something deeper. These aren’t rigid routines or elaborate setups — they’re loving, intentional invitations back to the self. Each ritual is its own kind of devotion. They’re not about doing more. They’re about doing what feels right.

1. The Morning Melt

A soft start that sets the tone for the day

“I used to reach for my phone first thing. Now, I reach for myself and my Nude Curve.”

There’s something quietly radical about starting the day with your own body. Before texts, before caffeine, before anyone else’s needs — it’s just you, your breath, and your touch. Morning masturbation has been shown to elevate mood, improve blood flow, and reduce stress hormones. But beyond the science, it just feels good. It invites a kind of presence that lingers, helping you move into the day more grounded, more energized, more in tune with yourself.

Rather than jumping out of bed or reaching for your phone, linger a little. Let your eyes stay closed. Let your body lead. Maybe it’s just a few minutes of gentle touch, or maybe it builds into something more. Let your fingers or your favourite pleasure wand move slowly along your arms, your neck, your stomach. Trace each curve like you’re discovering it for the first time. Use lube or oils if it helps you stay soft and curious. Breathe deeply, stay slow, and notice what feels good, what doesn’t, what sensations rise up as you allow yourself to melt into the moment. You can follow it with a gentle stretch, a glass of water, or a few pages of journaling — anything that says, “I’m still with myself.”

2. The Bathhouse Ritual

Cleanse, soften, and turn yourself on slowly

“Hot water + low light + my favorite toy = magic.”

There’s something ancient and feminine about bathing as ritual — a return to water, to warmth, to your senses. When you combine that with slow, loving touch, you create a deeply sensual experience that softens both body and mind. The heat relaxes your muscles. The water amplifies sensation. And the privacy of it all — the candlelight, the steam, the stillness — makes it feel like a ceremony just for you.

Run your bath as if you’re preparing for a lover. Choose oils or salts that smell delicious and feel nourishing. Turn off the overhead lights and light a candle — one is enough. Let yourself slide into the water and pause. Before anything sexual happens, just feel what it’s like to be fully immersed, fully held. When you’re ready, begin touching yourself in new ways. Explore the parts of your body that are often overlooked. Use your toy if it feels right, or let your hands guide you. This isn’t about racing toward climax—it’s about reclaiming your pleasure, moment by moment. Stay as long as you like. 

3. The Five-Sense Fantasy

Engage your whole body, not just your genitals

“I create a vibe like I’m romancing someone else — but it’s all for me.”

We often disconnect from our bodies because we’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, or simply too tired to feel. Bringing the senses into your solo time grounds you. It reawakens your sensuality — not as something performative or external, but as something alive in your skin, in your breath, in your being. When you engage all five senses, you create an experience that’s immersive, emotional, and unforgettable.

Imagine setting up the most romantic night — but for yourself. Choose a scent that turns you on or brings comfort: maybe it’s your signature perfume, or a drop of jasmine oil. Let music fill the room. Soft, slow, sensual. Wear something that feels good to the touch, even if no one else is going to see it. Maybe you keep a piece of chocolate by your bed, or a glass of wine, or a ripe piece of fruit — something luscious that reminds you of sweetness. Dim the lights or keep them on if you want to see yourself clearly. Let every sense come online. 

4. The Bedtime Wind-Down

A nightly ritual that soothes the mind and body

“It helps me sleep better — and feel closer to myself.”

The transition from day to night is the perfect time for ritual. Your body is craving calm. Your nervous system is looking for safety. Self pleasure at night isn’t just about the release.  It’s about closing the day with self love and softness. Orgasms help you produce oxytocin, release tension, and signal to your brain: you’re safe, you’re held, you can let go now.

Start with stillness. Dim the lights, put away your phone, maybe wrap yourself in a blanket or slip into something soft. Use your hands, your wand, your breath. Try drawing it out: building arousal, pulling back, then building again. This kind of edging keeps you present and deepens your orgasm when it comes — but even if it doesn’t, it will still feel amazing. When you finish (or pause), don’t rush into sleep. Let the calmness settle in. Maybe place your hand on your belly or chest and breathe with yourself for a few moments longer.

5. The Emotional Check-In

Use pleasure to connect to what you’re really feeling

“Even when I’m not ‘in the mood,’ I check in with my body. Sometimes it needs softness, not climax.”

Pleasure isn’t just about sex. It’s about presence. And presence is what helps us feel what’s true. Your body always knows — whether you’re holding something, craving something, or needing to let go. When you take the time to touch yourself with intention, you may discover emotions beneath the surface. Pleasure can bring up grief, longing, joy, memory. It’s not always light. But it is always honest.

Instead of waiting to feel turned on, begin with curiosity. Sit or lie down and place your hands gently on your body — maybe over your heart, your belly, your thighs. Breathe. Ask: What am I feeling right now? You don’t have to answer — just notice. From that place, let your hands move slowly, gently. If sexual touch doesn’t feel right, don’t force it. Maybe all your body wants is to be held. Or maybe, with time, desire begins to stir. Follow the thread. Let go of goals. Let the ritual be whatever your body needs in that moment, even if that’s just being tender with yourself

Ritual is the difference between doing and honouring. You don’t need candles or lingerie or a perfect schedule — you just need a willingness to slow down and listen. To remember that your pleasure isn’t selfish. It’s sacred. It’s yours.

Want to deepen your ritual? Explore our collection of pleasure wands and toys, lubes, and self-care products — designed by women, for women, with intention in every detail. Because your body is worth showing up for. Every. Single. Time.