Have you noticed that women’s two most sacred body parts - breasts & vagina are almost never touched outside a sexual or child-rearing context? These body parts are either sexualised or shamed for their natural properties of child-rearing and bodily fluid functions.
We are either being sucked dry by an infant or ravaged by a lover.
Women have a difficult relationship with their vaginas and most often it is not a positive one. There are insecurities over how it looks, smells and how hairy it is. There are yeast infections, periods and annoying discharge. Vaginas often hurt, itch, dry up or do not get wet fast enough. Often vaginas do not orgasm when we want them.
There is a lot of frustration and not enough love when it comes to vaginas.
With cultural shaming of our bodies we’ve been conditioned to dissociate from our breasts and vaginas unless it is for the need of another person, usually a lover or baby. The expectation on our body is to perform, to fulfill the needs of other people.
But what about what YOUR body needs?
The vagina or “yoni” is an elastic, muscular canal with a soft, flexible lining that provides lubrication and sensation. We all know body muscle pains like neck or back pain which arise from injuries or stress. Vaginas also experience stress in a form of muscle tension & stagnation. This tension often leads to numbness, irritation, penetration discomfort, low libido, dryness, lack of orgasms, and even chronic pain.
Massage & bodywork do healing wonders for aches/pains in the body. So wouldn’t it make perfect sense that when massaged with love and care our breasts & yoni will blossom and heal as well?
Yoni massage is about gifting yourself the power of a loving touch WITHOUT any expectations. It can be pleasurable, emotional, painful and relaxing.
Yoni massage, whether done yourself or by a professional, is a whole body experience that includes touching, releasing, arousing and massaging the whole body, focusing on buttocks, breasts, hips, outside/inside of the yoni, while occasionally massaging the rest of the body. A yoni massage can be done with hands or with a yoni massage tool. It may or may not end up in orgasm.
There are specially designed yoni massage toys on the market which allow you to press into the juicy muscle spots and release the tension. They are ergonomically shaped, smooth, non-vibrating toys which provide maximum effect with minimal effort when it comes to massage.
If you can dedicate the next year to learning ONE new self-care practice it should be yoni self-massage!
Did you know that our muscles store unresolved emotions & trauma? Women are masters of bottling up their emotions. Trauma, sadness, frustration, heartbreak, pain, resentment just to name a few. And what is not released, is bred. Since our vagina is mostly muscle, imagine all the emotional crap we are carrying within us?
Yoni Massage is a form of self-empowerment & self-care practice
Women need to develop a new loving relationship with their vagina. A relationship where the vagina is touched often with love and care, without any expectations of arousal or orgasm. Not only does massage relieve the stress from the muscles but it also teaches the body to desire touch.
A yoni that is loved-up and massaged often is gushing with lubrication, orgasms and desire and it only takes 20 minutes a couple times a week!
Gift yourself a 20 minute intuitive yoni massage tonight! Grab some coconut oil and rub, knead, press & hold into your thighs, labia, pubic bone, around the yoni entrance and clitoris. Use a yoni massage tool to slowly press into the tense muscles inside. There is no right or wrong way to massage yourself. Feel into it with your hands. Your body knows what to do.
Be gentle with yourself.
Touch your body.
Always in the Mood for Love,
About the Author:
Elena is the creator & author of The Yoni Empire and Co-Founder of Onna Lifestyle. She is a sex educator and writer, lover of all things pleasure-related. She healed an 8 year chronic yoni pain. She teaches and writes shamelessly about female sexuality and eroticism, supporting women with overcoming sexual triggers, insecurities and trauma. She is on a mission to nourish women, one orgasm at a time - connecting heart, body and mind. Follow her at @the_yoni_empire.