What else can gift a woman fast pleasure results than placing Mr. Buzzy on her clitoris for five minutes? Maybe only placing a freshly baked buttery croissant on her lips…
Vibrators are efficient, easy & fast. Some vibrator models are so powerful that you can orgasm within seconds.
In today’s world they seem to be the perfect sex toy.
But are they really?
Many women become dependent on vibrators for their sole source of orgasms.
One can orgasm from a vibrator while watching Netflix, wearing sweatpants and eating a croissant. One does not need to be aroused nor naked. One only requires an electric outlet.
In our sexual culture based on performance which holds orgasm as the absolute goal of sex, using a vibrator is often the easiest way to orgasm fast and feel sexually capable as a lover.
A side-effect of vibrators is the “vibrator orgasm-dependency”. The more you use these powerful vibrating machines, the more of this physical stimulation your body craves. There is a chance, that eventually, a woman is unable to orgasm without this type of stimuli.
Vibrator overuse is not an addiction. It is a dependency, a mental and physical crutch.
READ HERE about how a vibrator dependency begins.
Over time, your body learns to perceive your masturbation habits as pleasure. These habits are then translated into our love-making with a partner.
Thus, if you get yourself off with a vibrator in two minutes then your body expects similar sensations during love making with a partner. Such a habit of only quick-orgasms distances you from experiencing pleasure with a lover where there is a need of time, surrender, intimacy and vulnerability. A woman who is unable to feel pleasure from a partner’s mouth or hands may begin to feel broken and inadequate.
What does this have to do with croissants? Keep reading…
Using only clitoral vibrators for masturbation, often means you do not explore the juicy pleasure inside the vagina.
Many women do not penetrate themselves during self-pleasuring. There is COSMIC PLEASURE potential inside the vagina. The G-spot is there, cervical orgasms, female ejaculation (squirting) and the juicy feeling of being fulfilled (literally!) by a lover just to name a few!
An orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. Clitoral orgasms are amazing. We should all be having more of them! However, by masturbating ONLY clitorally we are missing out on a whole world of sexual and sensual body pleasure which enriches our sex lives.
Vibrators are like croissants.
Croissants are super delicious but we wouldn’t eat them daily. If we ate croissants every day (we wish!!!) we wouldn’t feel good in our bodies, would we? Eat one occasionally with your coffee and you feel great. Eat one every day and you feel sluggish.
Vibrators are like croissants because there is a need of conscious balance when it comes to pleasure from them.
We are pro-vibrators.
We are pro-croissants.
We are pro-pleasure with awareness!
If you choose to pamper yourself with croissants, pick the best bakery in town and savour them fully without any guilt. Do not stuff your face daily with stale baked goodies from your local supermarket. It is not worth it.
Approach your sex toys in the same way. Purchase the BEST quality sex toys. Treat your vibrators as pleasure TREATS which you use occasionally to spice up your erotic life rather than as a crutch for your orgasms…and of course on those days when you just need a quick fix and coffee doesn’t help. We’ve all been there…
In the meantime, expand your sexual experiences outside the vibrator realm.
1. Learn to orgasm and feel pleasure from your hands so that you can enjoy the hands of your partner.
2. Explore the inside of your vagina with non-vibrating toys so you can enjoy penetration during love-making.
3. Awaken your G-spot through yoni massage with the help of specially designed G-spot toys.
4. Every 10 times that you are sexual, use vibrators only 2-3 times. The rest of the time it is hands, mouth, tongue and non-vibrating hard material toys such as glass, steel toys or gemstone dildos. It is possible to re-train the body to accept MORE variations of stimuli as pleasure.
5. Learn your pleasure anatomy with your lover to understand how pleasure works in your body.
6. Explore yoni mapping.
If you want to be a multi-orgasmic woman then it is time to shelf Mr. Buzzy.
Maybe combine your vibrator and croissants in one naughty day per week?
Croissants & Vibrator day?
Bake & Vibe day?
What do you think, ladies?
Always in the Mood for Love,
Elena and Adela
About the authors:
Elena and Adela are the founders of Onna Lifestyle and self-proclaimed Pleasure Cheerleaders. They believe that healthy sexuality and sexual self-care are important components of health and overall wellbeing. Their intention is to introduce more beauty and conscious pleasure into every woman's life. Follow them on @onna_lifestyle.