What is De-armouring?
De-armouring: Reclaiming Sensitivity, Pleasure, and Presence Through Somatic Release
One of the most transformative practices we recommend on a healing journey is de-armouring—a powerful method for releasing stored tension, emotional blockages, and trauma from the body.
De-armouring is a process of consciously releasing stored trauma, tension, and emotional blockage from the body—specifically from the sexual and reproductive centers. For women, this includes the yoni, which in Sanskrit means "sacred space" or "temple." It refers not just to the physical vagina, but to the entire energetic and emotional landscape of a woman’s sexual center, including the vulva, vaginal canal, cervix, womb, ovaries, and pelvic bowl.
This work is intimate. It is deep. And it is often profoundly emotional.
Many of us, especially women, carry unconscious layers of pain, shame, and fear in our yonis and pelvis. These layers are not just emotional; they live within the fascia, the tissues, the muscles, and the cells. Whether from past sexual experiences, medical procedures, childbirth, abuse, rejection, cultural suppression, or even the subtle conditioning we’ve picked up about what it means to be a woman, we carry these imprints physically. The body holds everything.
What most people do not realize is that numbness, tension, pain during intimacy, or disconnection from desire are often signs of stored trauma in the pelvic region. The good news is, this can be healed. Not all at once, not overnight, but gently, respectfully, and with devotion.
Understanding Somatic Trauma and the Role of the Yoni
Somatic trauma refers to emotional pain or psychological stress that becomes embedded in the physical body. The body becomes the storehouse for what the heart and mind cannot yet process. While we often hear about trauma living in areas like the shoulders or hips, very few people talk about the trauma that gets locked inside the pelvic floor and yoni.
The yoni, like the heart, is incredibly sensitive and intuitive. She remembers every experience—loving or painful. She absorbs the energy of our partners. She feels the effects of self-abandonment, betrayal, shame, grief, and disconnection. She also responds deeply to safety, presence, care, and reverence.
Many women experience tightness, numbness, pain, or even an inability to fully feel pleasure. These are often signs of "armouring"—a kind of emotional and energetic shielding the body creates to protect itself. While this armouring may have been necessary at one point in time, it can eventually limit our ability to feel, receive, and trust.
My Journey into De-armouring
I came to de-armouring through curiosity. Something about it spoke to a quiet question inside me—a wondering if there was more to feel, more to know, more to uncover within my own body. I wasn’t in crisis, but I felt a subtle disconnection. I was curious about deepening my relationship with my body, my sexuality, and my inner truth.
That curiosity led me to explore places within myself I hadn’t accessed before. During my first de-armouring practice, I gently began to explore areas of tension and numbness in my yoni. What I discovered surprised me: waves of emotion—grief, shame, tenderness—rising to the surface. Tears came, not from pain, but from the profound sense of release. It felt as if I was giving my body permission to speak—and it had so much to say.
Over time, de-armouring has become more than a practice. It’s a ritual, a return, a reclamation. It has helped me soften into myself, rebuild trust with my body, and reawaken a sensitivity I didn’t even know I had lost. What began as curiosity has become one of the most powerful tools on my healing path—one that continues to reveal new layers of presence, pleasure, and self-intimacy.
A Gentle, Step-by-Step Guide to De-armouring the Yoni
This practice is about creating a safe, loving space to connect with your body and release what no longer serves you. It is not a sexual act, although it may awaken pleasure. It is a healing practice.
1. Create a Sacred Container
Set the tone. This is not something to do when rushed, distracted, or emotionally charged. Light a candle, play soft music, and create a space where you feel held and supported. Turn off your phone. Let your body know this is sacred time.
2. Ground Into the Heart
Before touching your yoni, take time to drop into your heart space. You can do this through deep breathing or meditation. Feel your heart open. Place your hands over your chest and invite a feeling of love and compassion to arise. Your heart is the gateway to the yoni. When the heart is open, the yoni feels safe enough to soften.
3. Begin With External Touch
Warm up your body first. Gently massage the outer parts of your yoni—the labia, clitoris, pubic bone, and inner thighs. Use warm oil like coconut or jojoba. Move slowly. Let yourself feel everything without rushing toward a goal. If emotions surface, allow them. Stay connected to your breath.
4. Explore Internally with Presence
If and when you feel ready, insert a yoni wand using plenty of lubricant. Move slowly. Gently explore different areas inside the vaginal canal. Press into different points and pause. Stay at each point for several breaths. Notice if there is pain, numbness, tingling, or emotion. Breathe into those areas. The goal is not to stimulate, but to listen and soften.
5. Start with the Perineum
This area, between the vaginal opening and anus, often holds deep ancestral and personal trauma. Use a wand or your fingers to apply gentle pressure. Stay with it. You might notice waves of emotion arise. Trust what your body is releasing. Let your breath support you through the process.
6. Allow Emotions to Move
You might cry. You might laugh. You might feel nothing at all. All of it is perfect. The body has its own rhythm and wisdom. Let go of expectations. Whatever is surfacing is ready to be witnessed, not judged.
7. Work in Short Sessions
Start with five to ten minutes. That is enough. You are building trust with your body. There is no need to push. You might release just one or two tension points in a session, and that is more than enough. What matters is your presence.
8. Close with Love and Integration
When your session feels complete, remove your wand or hand slowly. Place your hands over your heart and womb. Take at least ten deep, loving breaths. Whisper words of gratitude to your body. Journaling afterward can help integrate emotions. You might also take a bath or make yourself tea to ground back into the present moment.
Helpful Tips for De-armouring Practice
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Always go slow. This is not a race.
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Do not attempt this work when you are emotionally triggered or disconnected. Wait until you feel safe and grounded.
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Breathe deeply throughout. Breath is the bridge between the body and the mind.
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If your jaw tightens, consciously relax it. The jaw and pelvis are deeply connected.
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Be consistent, even if you only do five minutes at a time.
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If trauma surfaces that feels overwhelming, seek support from a trauma-informed practitioner.
Why De-armouring ?
De-armouring is an act of radical reclamation. It is a way to return home to ourselves, to release what never belonged to us, and to feel again—fully and deeply.
This practice has changed how I relate to myself, how I experience intimacy, and how I move through the world. It has made me softer and stronger at the same time. It has brought clarity to my relationships and depth to my pleasure. And most importantly, it has helped me trust myself more than ever before.
You deserve to feel safe in your body. You deserve to feel pleasure, connection, and freedom. You deserve to know the sacred power that lives within you.
De-armouring is not a quick fix. It is a journey of self-love, layer by layer. But every breath, every tear, every moment of presence brings you closer to your truth.
If you feel called to explore this path, honour that. Your body is ready.
Recommended pleasure wands for de-armouring
Cervix Bliss Wand
Onna Nude Curve
Onna Allure Curve
Onna Awaken
