What inspired you to start writing poetry and how did you get started?
I started by reading. I never wanted to be a writer or to write poetry but once I fell down that rabbit hole, it felt so natural to me. I started by reading Rumi, Hafez and Charles Bukowski and my fascination and imagination spiralled out of control from there.
My goal was to post writing of others that I felt connected to so that I could share it with everyone else. I wanted to help and heal people and then eventually, I turned into a writer myself, with the same goal to help people. From there my poetry developed and I started to dabble in different writing styles.
What do you love the most about what you do?
Whether it's a poem about love, the universe, a mind-blowing orgasm or a little bit of website copy. There are two parts to loving what I do: I love to help, heal and build a genuine connection with people. I also love the creativity that it brings to the table, making me feel an overwhelming sense of satisfaction and fulfilment, from what I do.
I never realized how a few words can have such a big impact on someone's life until I started to write them myself.
What would a day of pleasure look like for you?
Spending time with my partner to see her smile, laugh and make her orgasm. A beautiful view and delicious food.
Do you follow any other insta poets? Which ones are your favourite?
I used to follow quite a few "insta poets" but over the years I've refined it down and I only follow a handful now.
I still love a lot of poetry from poets such as Pavana, Nayyirah Waheed, Yung Pueblo, Rudy Francisco and Michael Faudet. and when they pop up on my feed I enjoy reading their work.
What are some things that most people do not know about you?
I wasn't always a writer or good at writing, for that matter. I'm trying to drive people away from the notion that being a good writer means that you had to have been born with letters floating around in your bloodstream.
I've been writing for a while but concentrated on my craft in the last couple of years to learn and get better. If you're passionate and driven enough, you can fill in the blanks and become the best version of yourself.
Do you ever get negative comments or feedback on your posts?
I rarely get negativity on my posts and that's pretty cool because I want it to be a community of conscious creators. I want the people that read my work to be uplifted, empowered and sexy in their own skin. My writing isn't about dragging people it's about developing as a person.
Oh, someone did follow me once to call me a derogatory term for a gay dude, that was nice.
When you are not writing, what are you doing in your daily life?
I seem to spend the majority of my time being a wordsmith of sorts. But, I live a pretty normal life of spending time with people that I care about and expanding my creative horizons. I do like to be a slug in front of Netflix, at times.
I try to dedicate time to helping people and meditating. My aim for 2019 is to adventure more, see more of the world and explore more of myself. I want to find a balance of new and old me and add that into my daily life.
What is sensuality for you and how do you embody it?
Sight, smell, soft words and a tender touch to giving and getting a good, hard orgasm. Sensuality means more about exploring and creating pleasure from deep within by understanding ourselves and other people.
For me, sensuality is a balance of soft and hard to awaken my pleasures in different ways. There are soft pleasures and hard pleasures. What I mean by that is; soft pleasures are the everyday things that we do to get excited and increase our sensuality. Hard pleasures are fulfilling and make us grow on varying levels, including sexuality.
A lot of my pleasure derives from the feel-good factor of being a good giver, inside and outside of the bedroom. Exploring a partner's mind, body and energy is just about as sensual as it gets. I want to get deep inside and experience feeling at its peak.
You talk a lot about empathy and emotional intelligence. What does emotional intelligence mean to you?
Emotional intelligence means to go beyond the standard veil of communication to connect and understand people on a deeper level. To reveal a softer side that's more in-tune with the harmony of resonating with other people, instead of bulldozing through everyone's emotions.
I'm trying to allow a new wave of softer men to come forward and express how they feel. I want men (and women) to not feel shame when trying to make a connection with their friends, lovers and the universe.
I don't believe in bullshit exchanges. I want to explore a person, I want to be able to understand them on multiple levels. Not only does this allow me to feel their energy but it lets me grow and improve myself, too.
If you could give just one advice on sex, what would it be?
Don't be selfish and don't be afraid to dive in head first (literally). You can only paint a masterpiece if you're willing to pick up a brush.
It's not all about enjoying your own pleasure, 100% of the time. It's about feeling for your partner's energy and how they're responding back to you. Being a good lover means to appreciate and reciprocate. Listen for energy.
Share one guilty pleasure with us?
I'm going to have to say it's mayo. I'm not proud of it. But, I do love it. I went ovo-lacto vegetarian in January 2017 and couldn't quite manage to phase egg products completely out of my diet.
I seem to consume an enormous amount of mayo but I'll be finding a cruelty-free alternative in 2019.
What is the biggest lesson you have learnt in the year 2018?
2018 has taught me a lot. From improving my creative workflow to staring at myself in the metaphorical mirror and introspectively acknowledging the areas of myself that need serious attention.
One of the most transformative things it has taught me is to care less about the opinions of other people. To just focus on my own shit and keep on moving forward, regardless of what other people may think. Part of that lesson was to trust in my own ability to fly, strong and free with my own ability.
Anup Sohanta (noopface)
Writer & Author of the book, From the Universe's Lips to My Ears.