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It is absolutely possible to increase your arousal and sensations in your vagina.

This practice is designed to help learn to relax your pelvic floor muscles. These muscles are a key to expanding your sexual response. We often hear about the importance of strengthening the pelvic floor, but for our sexual response and moving our sexual energy freely, it is equally important to learn how to relax the pelvic floor.

People do not talk enough about the importance of relaxing the pelvic floor muscles. Playing with tensing and releasing these muscles is vital for our orgasm and arousal. If you only keep strengthening and engaging your pelvic muscles, they can become very tense. When these muscles are tight and tense, the vulva and vagina receive less blood flow. And the parts of the body that receive less blood flow eventually become less sensitive and responsive. Tight pelvic floor muscles are often one of the reasons some women experience discomfort and pain during penetration.

By performing this exercise regularly, you will learn how to activate the pelvic floor and actively relax it, with the latter being much more difficult for many people.

You will also bring more blood flow into the genital area, increasing arousal and lubrication. It will energize and wake up the tissue inside your vaginal canal and introduce more pleasure and sensitivity by building the neural connection between the insides of the vaginal canal and pleasurable sensations.


- Find a comfortable position lying down on your bed or the floor. Take a few deeper breaths into your lower belly. Take as much time as you need gently massaging your vulva first, using lube or any neutral and yoni-friendly oil (if you don't have vagina-friendly lube, we recommend almond oil).

- When ready and warmed up, gently insert your index finger into the vaginal opening and rest it there. Start at 1cm depth.

- Now take a deep breath, filling up your belly and letting your abdomen, pelvic floor, and vaginal opening expand and totally relax. Imagine your vaginal opening is widening on your inhale.

- As you exhale, gently squeeze your vagina and pelvic floor around your finger as if you want to suck it in.

- Again, take a deep breath into your belly and completely relax your core, pelvic floor, and vagina. Repeat, expanding your vaginal opening and relaxing pelvic floor muscles on the in-breath and gently squeezing on the out-breath. See if you can notice any movement of the vaginal walls around your finger or the toy. Bring your attention to your finger and how it feels when you squeeze your pelvic muscles around it. Does it feel different when you squeeze vs. when you relax?

- In the next round, focus on the sensations in the vagina squeezing around your finger instead.

- Do 3-5 rounds at 1 cm depth, then move deeper in with your finger. Again, notice the intensity of the squeeze here. Keep going deeper by 1 cm and do 3-5 rounds of this vaginal sipping breathing at each depth.

- Use a non-vibrating hard material dildo/pleasure wand for more advanced practice. When using a wand, focus on the sensations of your vaginal wall against the hard toy; imagine you are sucking it by squeezing your pelvic floor as you exhale and pushing it out as you inhale. If your muscles are in decent shape, you will manage to physically push the wand out of your vaginal canal.

First, when you start doing this practice, you might not feel much difference between the tensed and relaxed state of the vaginal walls around your finger. For some of you, it might be much more difficult to release your pelvic floor muscles than to tense them.

Most people see their vaginas as passive and are unaware of their specific PC muscles. No wonder their pelvic floor muscles are in really bad shape.

You will start noticing the first changes quickly. If you commit to this practice, you will gradually start feeling more and more sensation even when you are not tensing. You will notice more arousal and desire during self-pleasure and lovemaking.

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The other two practices we swear by are:

Every woman has a prostate, and it is the controversial G- spot.
This practice helps build your G-spot's visual, spatial, and physical awareness.
Befriend it and awaken its sensations through mindful massage and self-pleasure. Learning about its anatomy and the location in your body is essential if you want to explore and experience female ejaculation, as the female prostate is directly responsible for this phenomenon.

The benefits of Yoni mapping:

Awakening and increasing vaginal sensations and pleasure
Identifying areas of tension, pain, and numbness.
Relaxing pelvic tension and helping to relieve pain.
Restoring awareness to areas of numbness internally.
Creating a deeper and more loving connection to your body and sexuality.
Addressing shame or guilt about your sexuality or genitals.

"I had never experienced a G-spot orgasm until I tried your Raven Pearl. Vibrating toys just distract me and I can't feel much when using them. The Raven did its job in no time. The smoothness, the weight,  and the hardness feel so real and delicious and the size is just perfect for me. It is definitely my favorite toy now. The release I get from this wand is an experience like no other."

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